The below is an excerpt from a post by Golden Willow Retreat; a very special place with a very special purpose – they know how to cultivate community – supporting authentic growth and healing. I was struck by this section which talks about the how and why of our need, as human beings, for community in order to grow and heal. It only takes a few minutes to read it, but I think it well worth such a small amount of time.
“…being open and listening to others also allows the individual to feel safe enough to let down their guard and become “real” and share emotion. This sharing allows present and historical emotional wounds to heal and also to become open to connecting with others and to realize that, as humans, we are not supposed to do this world alone. When we find connection, we heal ourselves and others. As our world becomes more and more demanding and we are inundated by information, more and more people are moving into a place of fear and isolating to protect themselves.
As the brain recognizes fear, it starts to shut down the frontal lobe; this is where connection, love, community, values, and morals are located. As the frontal lobe shuts down and the protective part of our brain takes over it becomes difficult to feel. This leads to a feeling of inadequacy, self-loathing, addictive tendencies, rage towards self and others and a sense of futility. The human species is meant to connect in order to heal. We are all healing from our wounds of not being seen, heard, and valued.
The wild thing is that as we begin healing from these wounds, by finding ways to connect and share healthy compassion, empathy and safety, our frontal lobes begin to function healthily. Being vulnerable and choosing to love and connect with others throughout their struggles, victories and humanness heals…”
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