Top 10 Steps to Increased Personal Resilience – Part 2
The word “resilience” comes from the Latin word “resilíre,” which literally means, “To leap back” or as I like to say, “spring back from”. Resilience helps to grow from and beyond the challenging and uncertain things in our lives. Knowing how to “spring back” from adversity and life challenges is something that all of us can do. Here are the second three of the Top 10 Steps to help you increase your capacity for personal resilience.
5. Progress Forward In Steps (one step at a time…)
This takes a bit of focus for some of us and some restraint for others. It’s very easy to get overwhelmed with the “parts” of a task or intention. Sometimes it’s pulling back on our zeal to “plow forward” and finish. This is not always the best option and when it comes to relationships, health and our own sense of self in the world it’s a surefire way to miss the greatest gifts available to us. Try to segment out the part of the task in front of you – do it well, not perfect – just the best you can at the place you are in your life at this moment. Then breathe, take a moment to reflect on what you accomplished before you move on. Remember, “trust the process – it’s often more important than the progress”.
6. The Scribe & the Herald
Different areas of the brain are in play when you say something, hear something or write something down. And when we learn something through multiple modalities we are often more likely to remember it more easily. Sometimes it may be stronger imprinting from an experience – like remembering the cologne/perfume (olfactory), the song on the radio (auditory) and the warmth of touch (tactile) when you first kissed a partner. Other times it can be as simple as when you learned a list of facts in school by putting them to a tune or rhyme. Whatever the situation – increased fronts is likely to yield increased potential for recollection. So (and yes, I mean “old school” scripting – not typing). If you are open to journaling – great! If not, even a short couple of sentences is fine…and easy to make time for (no excuses). Try getting into the habit of taking a few minutes at the end of the day to write down three things that are unique to that day and that you are grateful – and write that you are grateful for them. No global or general comments, no “carry-over” content folks – “I am grateful for my job” or “dog” doesn’t work here. Specific and unique to the day; “I am grateful that today I met a new neighbor while walking my dog” -or- “…grateful that the solution I proposed at work this morning worked well for the team”. But wait – we’re only halfway there. After you write them down, read them, thoughtfully, out loud to yourself – or even say them aloud with a trusted confidant. Scripting gratitude and speaking it aloud help us to reflect more easily and frequently on those things that we feel good about. Revisiting good, even small ones, more frequently gives us more “clock hours” in a positive frame of mine – this can have a fantastic impact on us – if we just put it into regular practice. (sounds too hard to do? – re-read #3 and #5.)
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7. Celebrate the wins
It’s important to embrace and celebrate when we do something well – even a smaller success. Pride may be challenging to keep in check but being a little proud of our accomplishments is a good thing. Keep it simple. This isn’t about grand-standing, excess or desire. It’s about the ritual space – the honoring. Host an old fashioned ice cream social and yard game party at your house with friends to celebrate your promotion, take friends to the beach or lake for the day to celebrate your recovery anniversary or start a new tradition: take cupcakes to someone you know as your birthday celebration. Celebrate the successes in your life!
Sometimes the people around us don’t know how to do this. You may have to teach them along the way. Be okay with that – jump in. If habits die hard – then start some new, positive ones. Wear a ridiculous hat to work on co-worker birthdays, challenge neighbors in your apartment to a make-shift annual “grill off” – an architect I know got his entire team to play laser-tag together each time a project was complete. Be creative – think beyond consumption – think new or shared experiences. Celebrating the wins – on top of Scribe & Herald (#6) – can bring you more strength, happiness and resilience in your every day life faster than you may expect.
Top 10 Steps to Increased Personal Resilience
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